Parenting during the first five years is certainly the most rewarding and enjoyable experience but also physically and emotionally demanding.
This in fact is the golden period for you parents (i.e. 2 to 5 years of your child) where you can form the child’s character. This is because the children of this age are very innocent and know only the language of love and affection. They are just like a ballof clay; you can mould and give them the shape you like. They also have tremendous grasping power. As per the research on child psychology a child can grasp almost 50% of the knowledge of life.
Once you have a clear picture of your child’s behaviour pattern, you are ready to change it by triggers and consequences. You may have to try and ignore certain behaviourial pattern, try not to give in, remove certain privileges, look and sound as if you mean it when asking your child to do something. Most importantly concentrate on encouraging and rewarding good behaviour all the time!
How to Cope Positively With Difficult Child Behavior?
1. Establish House Rules Make simple rules for your child. Start with a few "things we do and don't do." Discuss about them with your child.
2. Prevention Is Better Than Cure If you feel that your child's behaviour is beginning to go out of control, try distracting your child's attention onto a positive activity or game. (Use the proverb”Nip it at the bud” means cut the bad habits at the bud stage only)
3. Understand Your Child's Behavior Define simply and clearly any difficult behaviour. Keep a diary of what led to such behaviour and what immediately followed it. From this, see if there is a pattern. What are the triggers and consequences which might be keeping the behaviour going? DON'T blame yourself but work at changing your responses
4. Discipline With Short Time-Outs Try to view discipline in a different way e.g. if a rule is broken, discipline them with short time-outs. e.g. 1. Make them sit quiet for five minutes 2. Not allowing them to play for sometime, alternatively ignore minor behaviour difficulties as your attention will often inadvertently encourage the very behaviour you want to stop.
5. Take Five When tensions and anger rise in you or your child, count five. Take five minutes to cool down and to ask yourself, "Why am I getting so angry?" Try to identify the real problem and then find the solution. Always control your temper.
6. Never Strike In Anger Research has shown that hitting your child does not help, and can do more damage. Try to avoid striking your child in anger. Smacking is not effective in reducing poor behaviour, as it does not teach children good behaviour.
7. Don’t Yell or shout at children Try to avoid yelling at your children in anger. Do not put down your children. If they break a rule, tell them what they did was wrong and why that makes you angry. Be angry at what they did, NOT at who they are (i.e. blame the work of the child and not the child).
8. Get Away When you feel frustrated, angry or uncontrollable, let your feelings not affect your children. Go out. Take a walk.
Ways to Give Your Child Trust
1. Be There Talk to your child. What was their day like? Be available. Encourage your child to express feelings creatively by keeping a diary or through drawing.
2. Be Consistent Establish a reliable routine. A clear and consistent routine helps a child feel safe and secure.
3. Let Your "No" Be Strong No If you say "no" to your child, make sure you both understand what that means and keep to the rule. Do not shout. Your child must know that your "No" means a absolute No.
4. Never compare Go with the pace of the individual child. Do not compare your child with any other child or with the sibling from the same family.
Set a good example for your children
Children often learn how to act by observing how their parents act. For example, if parents handle frustrations well, their children will probably learn to handle their own frustrations well. If parents swear and become upset when things don't go well, their children may learn to act the same way. Parents should avoid resorting to the old saying "Do as I say, not as I do."
Don't take your children's good behavior for granted.
Parents should praise their children when they behave with manners instead of just waiting to praise them only when they do something special. Parents should give their children the message that they notice appropriate behaviour as much as (they notice) inappropriate behaviour. Catch them being good!
Give your children lot of verbal and physical affection.
Frequent physical contact between parents and their children (such as hugging or brief "love pats") is very important. This positive affection should be provided on a regular basis whenever children are behaving appropriately. Parents should avoid providing this affection soon after their children have misbehaved.
Discipline should be immediate and should be administered in a matter-of-fact manner.
Parents need to avoid becoming upset while disciplining their children. Short time-out and grounding techniques can be very effective if they are used correctly. After being punished, children should start with a clean slate. Parents should not remind or nag their children about their misbehaviour or past behaviour which was wrong.
Be consistent and predictable with your children.
Children function best when they know what to expect. Parents should make it very clear exactly what are and are not acceptable behaviours. Children's appropriate and inappropriate behaviour should be handled in a similar manner by both parents (e.g., both parents should use the same punishment techniques for misbehaviour). Consistency is not only important between parents. It is also important from day-to-day for individual parents. Parental management of children's behaviour from one day to another should not vary according to parental mood. Rather, it should always be based on their children's behaviour.
How directions are given to children can have an effect on whether or not the children will follow them.
Parents should make eye contact with their children before giving a direction. Yelling directions from another room is often not very successful. Directions should be given in a very specific and concise manner. Parents should avoid giving vague directions such as "Be good." A parent's idea of being good and their children's idea of being good may be very different. Parents should praise their children when they follow directions. They should also be prepared to enforce directions their children do not follow. If parents do not enforce directions, children learn that their parents don't mean what they say. Parents should avoid giving more than one warning following a direction.
Make rules clear and specific. Parents should avoid making rules that they cannot or may not enforce.
Enforcement of rules should be as a matter-of-fact the penalty for breaking rules should be stated in advance. When a rule is broken, children should be appropriately punished (e.g., Short time-out).
Let your children help with as many everyday tasks as possible.
Most children enjoy spending time helping their parents, and it can also be a good learning experience. With younger children, "helping" may involve pretend work in the same area.
Closely monitor your children.
For younger children, parents should praise them when they are behaving well. Parents should avoid the trap of not wanting to disturb children while they are behaving well. Parents should make sure they know where their children are and what they are doing.
Avoid lecturing, nagging, yelling, and screaming to manage your children's behaviour. These approaches are typically not effective and often make problems worse.
There is a first time for everything. Teething problems are bound to be there, the little children leave their home, parents and environment for the first time. It is very natural for them to be a little uncomfortable initially in the company of new people. They may refuse to eat their Tiffin, may not be able to follow toilet manners etc., We in the school are always there to take care of each and every need of the child. They will slowly get adjusted to the school routine and will later love coming to school, Where some children can adopt himself/herself quickly to the environment around, some others take time to come out of their cocoon, just like a caterpillar which takes its own natural time to form into a beautiful butterfly similarly the children also need to be given their space and time at their tender age. During this period parents need to be patient enough and give sufficient time to their Children.
On the first day parents can leave their wards at the doorstep of the classroom and next day onwards we request the parents to drop their child near the main gate only. If the parents come inside the class and sit with the child with a feeling that it will help the child in settling down fast, it will on the other hand an adverse effect and child will take a longer time to settle and get used to the school routine. (Moreover the children who are already settled by then may also get disturbed and cry for their parents.)
Please keep extra pair of dress (any color) in the Child’s bags so that the uniform can be changed when needed.
All the books and stationery (labeled properly) should be sent to the school on the re-opening day. The class teachers will keep them in their respective classes.
The student’s diary and the ID card will be issued to the child after the school re-opens. Kindly fill the details in the diary. The child should wear the ID card daily and come to school.
Co-operate with the school authorities by ensuring regularity and discipline.
We realize that our students are too young to reach school punctually on their own. Parents should take the responsibility for instilling the importance of being punctual from the beginning.
To ensure good eating habits in children, we will appreciate if you do not provide chocolates, wafers in the snacks.
A spare set of clothes neatly packed should be sent (in small Bags) with their name slips
No heavy lacing books are allowed
Parents are requested not make their children wear or bring any kind of valuable Jewellery to school failing to do so the management and staff is not responsible for the lost of any such things.
Children need to carry a school bag, snack, water bottle and a napkin. All personal belongings need to be labeled with the child’s name and class
On regular basis to discuss / share about your child’s progress?
Parents are requested not to meet the teacher during transition as this distracts her from performing her duties, co-operation will be appreciated. You can discuss on Saturday.
Parent teacher meets will be held from time to time and parents will be kept informed about the same
The parents should not send the child to school in case the child is suffering from ill health especially from any contagious disease the child shouldn’t be sent to school unless he/she has completely recovered.
In case of absence of a child ( for any reason ) the parent should meet the class teacher once after the child joins back and ensure that the missed work of the child is taken care of , also a proper leave letter should be sent to the teacher, stating the reason and duration of the leave period.
Parents must communicate their message to the Teacher in School Dairy.
- All the personal details in the first page of the diary have to be filled up duly by the parents immediately.
- No exams or tests will be re conducted under any circumstances.
Parent Teacher Meets
5 dates are fixed for such meets during which time only academic related issues may be discussed. However parents need to respect the teacher’s time as she/he has to attend to others too. For additional queries and concerns, Head of the Wing or the School Principle may be approached on any Saturday only. Parents should plan well to attend these scheduled meets to avoid communication gap.
- We believe both the school and the parents/guardians are responsible for the children’s education. A close working relationship between the parents and school ensures the best outcome of children’s education and welfare. We, therefore, ask parents not to hesitate to forward any suggestions that you think may improve our teaching standard.
- We believe both the school and the parents/guardians are responsible for the children’s education. A close working relationship between the parents and school ensures the best outcome of children’s education and welfare. We, therefore, ask parents not to hesitate to forward any suggestions that you think may improve our teaching standard.
- We encourage parents/guardians to discuss each student’s progress as and when there is any concern. A face to face discussion, or use the School Diary, with the class teacher is always welcome, but if you prefer you can address your concerns to the Head Teacher in writing. We are here to help our youngsters to enjoy and learn.
- Parents/guardians who are responsible for picking up a child need to be registered with the school. If the registered person cannot pick up the child, please inform the class teacher in advance. Otherwise the child may not be allowed to leave the school.
- Please pick up the student on time. If parents/guardians cannot reach the school on time, please Inform to the school telephone number 040-2703 3377 .
- School reserves the right to implement new rules at any given time providing it safeguard the health and safety of the students. If there is anything you would like to clarify, please do not hesitate to contact us.
- Parent may not seek interviews with teachers during class hours unless permission is sought out through appointment.
- Parents are responsible to pick up their children at dismissal time. In extraordinary circumstances, if a parent or guardian is unable to pick up a student, arrangements must be made with the Principal or Teacher in advance.
- Please notify the kindergarten of any change of address or telephone number
For your convenience, an AfterSchool-DayCare is available. Student must be enrolled for the week or a day if needed. Registration form for AfterSchool-DayCare Program can be obtained in the school office.
Best wishes for your/your child’s education.